Me We Wins Weekly blog

Well ladies, it seems like “Me – We” Wins has been a long time coming. Perhaps it’s because God has been working on “Me” for a few years now. When I think of how passive and self-sacrificing I’d been under the guise of doing my part in making “We” relationships work, it almost sickens me. With eyes wide open, God in my ear, and my faith at work, my “Me” began to grow in worth in my own eyes, heart, and spirit. I had become so accustomed to suppressing my feelings and feeling numb, that when I began to realize my worth, I didn’t know how to express what I was feeling. Nor could I verbalize the other person’s (We) actions toward me – only that it made me feel bad. Wow, I had to be numb to survive what I tolerated. Why didn’t I speak up for “Me”? The “We” relationships I’m referring to flow from work, family, friends and dating. I was consistent across the board. As I look back in an attempt to stand up for “Me”, I began to cut off friendships with females first. I considered myself to be a good friend. I kept all secrets, listened to all problems, made myself available, however needed, and was there for my friends. Being an independent person, rarely did I need that same support from friends, but the few times I did, it wasn’t there. I do remember getting support twice during my youth, but it was more out of curiosity or intrigue with no sense of confidentiality. Because of that reality for me, I would cut ties with females at the first sign of insincerity or dishonesty. It’s funny how God has brought me back to wanting to befriend and help my fellow sisters. This alone is a testament of how God heals the brokenhearted. It didn’t happen overnight, but it happened, and He provided the wisdom in categorizing the types of friends we have in our lives. Friends may be short or long term, ranging from associates to trench. We address this in the latter part of “Me – We” Wins. A friend is the first choice you have in selecting a “We” relationship. Family is decided for you, but your “Me” gravitates to a friend. What in “Me” is drawn to another? Is it opposite attracts? Or is it birds of a feather flock together? To answer that question you need to know more about your “Me”. Can you describe her? Think about it. Until next time, Much Love. Me We Wins.

Deanne